I like to watch people eat. Okay, that sounds a bit creepy but I like to observe people’s eating habits because it really interests me. At work, I could probably write a list of which colleagues bring a packed lunch, which ones skip meals and prefer to eat when they get home and which ones buy chicken and chips every day. I also like to ask people questions about the way they eat and why. I have come to realise that those who are the healthiest are not healthy simply because they eat certain foods but also because of their healthy eating habits. And likewise, those of us who are not so healthy may be so because of our bad eating habits. Some of these things have been instilled in us from childhood and some we have just picked up along the way. Here are 4 of the habits that I have discovered:
My blog is a year old! I would say
Happy Birthday blog but that’s a tad weird. Instead, we’ll take a look back over the last year and see what Love Your Temple, the small ministry I started a few months before the blog, has done over the last year so that you can reflect with me and also get involved in future events and opportunities if something you see takes your interest
For the past 8 weeks, I led 10 women through the Love Your Temple Weight Loss Challenge. This was an online challenge using communication through a private Facebook group; I set the woman challenges, such as exercising 4 times a week or a week of eating clean for dinner and they would post their sweaty selfies and yummy chickpea burgers for us all to see. It was a success for many reasons and it was great to see women who had never met before encouraging each other and working hard because they felt motivated and accountable.
It was a great learning curve for myself because I was able to observe the different women and their progress and see why they were or were not losing weight. There were a few ladies with the typical weight loss excuses such as “not having enough time” but they were able to learn how to overcome them and make progress. There were those who thought they ate well but actually did not seeing them change their habits. It was really interesting and it led me to write the following post because I have been able to relate to a few of them and maybe you can too. So here we go, 5 reasons you are not losing weight:
Disclaimer: I am not a Personal Trainer or health professional.
So yesterday, I and 9,999 other women took part in a 10KM run organised by Nike. This was my first every 10KM run, I’ve only ever taken part in one other organised run and that was a Cancer Research 5K over 5 years ago. Prior to the run, Nike did a lot of promotions, sent out a training plan and even organised training groups. I attended two of these running groups at the Oxford Circus Niketown Store and did some runs on my own. I’m not a huge fan of long distance running and running a 10KM was not something I’d imagined myself doing this year but the event looked really good and I told myself to get out of my comfort zone in 2015 so I signed up.
You’ve seen the documentaries and the MTV shows; human wants to lose weight, they hire a trainer, trainer shouts at them in the gym, makes them sweat, vomit and cry, trainer throws away all of their chocolate and creates amazing salads and within 6 weeks they are half their size. They become confident, beautiful, dye their hair and they even get married. So, you ask, is this what it’s really like having a Personal Trainer (PT) and are they worth the money? Well, I’ve had two, (I still have one) both male and female, so I can share my experience.
So right now I’m in the library sipping on a green smoothie, typing up revision notes and trying not to panic about my upcoming exams and the conversation on the table next to me inspired me to write this post. (See my Staying Healthy during Exam Season post).
Side note: Please don’t come to the library to gossip about boys and show each other photos of vixen weave. It is very distracting and annoying and there are other places for such activities; the ‘chicken shop’, costa and maybe even the bus stop. The saddest line in their whole conversation? – “I wanna pass my exams but I love man too much!”
So these college aged girls (16-18 years old) are showing each other photos of different girls and asking, “Do you think she’s pretty?” and the others will respond “Nah she just takes good photos,” or “Nope, it’s the lighting” or even “No, she just has good eyebrows.”
The amount of time they’re spending gazing at each photo is worrying; is a selfie that serious? Will analysing another girl’s photo and finding a flaw make you feel prettier? Is being pretty important? Sadly, for some of us the answer is yes. For some girls, being pretty is the ultimate life goal. I know, sad right? But I think most of us have gone through a phase, some longer than others, where all we wanted was to be pretty. We wanted other things too, good grades, the latest Primark jeans and the ability to eat anything we wanted without gaining weight, but being pretty was towards the top of the ‘goals list.’ Here’s why I look back and see how silly that was:
Today’s post is a recipe from a guest blogger, Christine. I follow her on Instagram (go and do the same @pink_osi) and her weekly meal preps are amazing.
She makes such creative recipes such as jerk cauliflower wings and sweet potato gnocchi in these cute little pink boxes and they put my simple quinoa salads to shame. I asked her to share a recipe on my blog so we can all try something new because chickpea curry does get boring after a while doesn’t it? So enjoy the recipe and be sure to let either of us know if you make it.
Meet Shade; a doctor working in obstetrics and gynaecology. In her spare time she enjoys reading, music and keeping fit. Shade is also a passionate writer and has an amazing blog over at www.girlwiththafro.com. Her style of writing is hilarious and she discusses great topics. I caught up with Shade to talk about confidence, beauty and what it means to her.
How do you define confidence?
Having knowledge of your worth and knowledge of your potential to be great at things. For me, confidence is having a security and an unmovable assurance about who you are and what makes you special despite what the world around you says.
Would you describe yourself as a confident person? Has it always been this way?
Yes, I am a confident person. I think confidence is a journey and everyone has suffered with low confidence at some point. As humans we have so many things pulling and pushing at us at once, so it’s natural for us to have fluctuating confidence. I do think there is a certain level that I have reached and I am really grateful but it was a journey for me to get to this point. Five years ago I wouldn’t have said I was this confident.
What were you like as a teenager?
I always felt like I was the “ugly friend!” I think as black women a lot of our insecurities around our looks come from things like our hair and our skin tone. I grew up in a group of friends who were mostly light-skinned with long hair and I was the dark-skinned one with short hair. Guys didn’t give me a lot of attention and I always felt like I wasn’t the pretty one. The only thing I was confident about was my intelligence because I had always been told that I was smart, so I took that on as my identity. I was the nerdy awkward smart girl and I pretended that I didn’t care that I wasn’t seen as the pretty one. It took me ages to even look at myself and see myself as pretty because I had always felt ugly. I would be really surprised when guys gave me attention. I didn’t like my face and I wished I could fix it – I hated my jaw line, my nose and other things.
As promised, here are the remaining 2 recipes of the packed lunch series from Ranette of Love Loretta’s kitchen. [Visit her blog here] These recipes look equally as tasty and will definitely give you that lunch time energy boost as opposed to that afternoon bloat and slump that fast food gives you.
It’s important to pack food that you enjoy eating; if you don’t like kale salad then don’t force yourself to eat it! You’ll just end up throwing it away and heading out to the local chicken and chip shop. Choose a recipe that will make you countdown the hours until lunchtime (as if you don’t already) and that will help you stay on track health wise. We’ve given you four to choose from so you have no excuse – happy cooking!
Spinach Tortillas and roast pepper hummus
By now you should know that I’m a packed lunch kinda girl. Whether I’m off to Uni, a day out or even to Church sometimes, there is some sort of edible in my bag. You just have to be prepared for any strike of hunger and who really wants to spend £3 on a meal deal every day. After all, those dry sandwiches get boring after a while don’t they?
Well, Ranette from lovelorettaskitchen.com has brought 4 amazing packed lunch recipes over to the blog. I’ll be posting 2 today and 2 later this week. These recipes look complicated but Ranette has assured me that they are simple to make. They look so good and they can all be made in bulk for a meal prep and then you can take a portion with you each day. You’d better pack two forks because your colleagues and classmates will be asking for a bite!
Go and check out Ranette’s blog; she has a wide range of great recipes from granola to ice-cream to Caribbean dishes. You’ll defiantly find something you like.